From mboxrd@z Thu Jan 1 00:00:00 1970 Return-Path: Received: (majordomo@vger.kernel.org) by vger.kernel.org via listexpand id S1757505Ab3GQWjC (ORCPT ); Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:39:02 -0400 Received: from bombadil.infradead.org ([198.137.202.9]:37309 "EHLO bombadil.infradead.org" rhost-flags-OK-OK-OK-OK) by vger.kernel.org with ESMTP id S1756393Ab3GQWi7 (ORCPT ); Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:38:59 -0400 Message-ID: <1374100682.24167.142.camel@shinybook.infradead.org> Subject: Re: [Ksummit-2013-discuss] [ATTEND] How to act on LKML From: David Woodhouse To: Sarah Sharp Cc: Steven Rostedt , David Lang , ksummit-2013-discuss@lists.linuxfoundation.org, CAI Qian , Greg Kroah-Hartman , Darren Hart , Ingo Molnar , Olivier Galibert , stable , Linux Kernel Mailing List , Linus Torvalds , Willy Tarreau Date: Wed, 17 Jul 2013 23:38:02 +0100 In-Reply-To: <20130717185138.GC17906@xanatos> References: <20130716211235.GG4994@xanatos> <20130716212704.GB9371@thunk.org> <20130716224357.GK4994@xanatos> <1374015299.6458.76.camel@gandalf.local.home> <20130716231217.GL4994@xanatos> <51E5D7C8.5000306@gmail.com> <1374018809.2249.29.camel@leira.trondhjem.org> <1000066089.1803398.1374046596236.JavaMail.root@redhat.com> <20130717144849.GB16513@xanatos> <1374073771.6458.143.camel@gandalf.local.home> <20130717185138.GC17906@xanatos> Content-Type: multipart/signed; micalg="sha-1"; protocol="application/x-pkcs7-signature"; boundary="=-Vhyqu8ZFcxefI3iCDyC3" X-Mailer: Evolution 3.8.3 (3.8.3-2.fc19) Mime-Version: 1.0 X-SRS-Rewrite: SMTP reverse-path rewritten from by bombadil.infradead.org See http://www.infradead.org/rpr.html Sender: linux-kernel-owner@vger.kernel.org List-ID: X-Mailing-List: linux-kernel@vger.kernel.org --=-Vhyqu8ZFcxefI3iCDyC3 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="UTF-8" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable On Wed, 2013-07-17 at 11:51 -0700, Sarah Sharp wrote: > No, it's actually some of the comments I've received that bother me. > For example, I would never want to deal with the misogynist troll, > Lubin, EVER again. It surprises me to see you calling someone names like that, Sarah. It seems to be contrary to the request that you are making of others. > http://permalink.gmane.org/gmane.linux.usb.general/42482 Perhaps I'm missing some context, but I'm a little confused. Did you really complain at him *merely* because he used the phrase 'old boys club'? That phrase is *not* about the gender of the participants, it's about nepotism and exclusion of non-members. Men are just as excluded by the "old boys network" of that phrase, as women are. He's talking about *himself* being excluded, as far as I can tell. At least in places. To complain that he was being sexist, just because he used that phrase, was just *WRONG*. That was *absolutely* not what he was talking about. You appeared to bring gender (and gender discrimination) into a conversation where it was completely out of place and inappropriate to do so. Sarah, it may have escaped your attention that some words and phrases which are common in the English language contain words which appear to be gender-specific. But that *doesn't* make them sexist. It makes no more sense to harangue this person for his use of the phrase 'old boys club', than it would to harangue someone for saying 'mankind' instead of 'peoplekind'. > "You may be seen as a liability by Intel preaching "feminism" on a > public forum. From their point of view: will you play the gender card > on them. Here is what you did: Instead of realizing that I was being > _very_ sympathetic to a more diverse Linux development environment by > using the phrase "the old boys club", you pretended to take offense, not > realizing you're in fact becoming a liability. That's okay. Honest > mistake." > > Telling me my job at Intel is in jeopardy because I'm complaining about > sexist statements is a threat. It's verbal abuse, and I won't take it. > I shouldn't have to put up with these kinds of statements and personal > attacks. It's not verbal abuse, and it's not an attack. He's suggesting that if you jump at shadows and make inappropriate complaints, you may make your employer wary because they might be concerned that you may do the same thing to *their* detriment. Knowing your employer as I do, I think he's probably wrong =E2=80=94 but I certainly don't think it was a personal atta= ck. Unless that message came from someone inside your employer (and probably in your management chain), it's hard to interpret it as a 'threat'. It's just misplaced, misguided, "personal advice" being offered to make a point. You gave plenty of examples earlier of stuff which *was* completely inappropriate and personal abuse. This isn't one of them, and it detracts from your position. Sarah, if you're going to ask us to change our behaviour to accommodate those who are unable to cope with our normal day-to-day communication, then I think you need to be careful to retain your credibility by practising what you preach, and by making sure that there *is* merit in anything you do complain about. There *is* plenty to complain about, certainly, without also jumping at shadows and effectively performing an ad hominem on yourself by doing so. When you say that you want us to avoid personal abuse and attacks, that's fine and I think everyone can fairly much agree. But it looks like you have a very different definition of what 'abuse' and 'attacks' actually are, too. I think that's largely where the understanding breaks down in this discussion. I support efforts to ensure civility and encourage a more diverse participation in our community. But when I see examples like this one, I worry about what it might lead to. I fear that it might end up being taken *too* far, and that makes me reluctant to support it =E2=80=94 I fear= that we'll end up on a slippery slope to a world where I'll end up being excluded because someone will take offence at me simply using the common phrases and idioms of the language I grew up with. And the offence which is drawn will be *so* random and arbitrary and unpredictable, like the alleged 'sexism' in 'old boys club' above, that I'll be fearful of saying *anything*, ever. 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