Re: Code of conduct violation?

From: David Aguilar <davvid@gmail.com>
To: Felipe Contreras <felipe.contreras@gmail.com>
Cc: Seth House <seth@eseth.com>, Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>,
	Git Mailing List <git@vger.kernel.org>,
	Christian Couder <christian.couder@gmail.com>,
	git@sfconservancy.org
Subject: Re: Code of conduct violation?
Date: Thu, 24 Dec 2020 13:00:45 -0800	[thread overview]
Message-ID: <CAJDDKr7bhnbr6NZfV28rJN5JrHkO+gZCLY_LkwiCxxBp=HWfbg@mail.gmail.com> (raw)
In-Reply-To: <5fe134eeaec71_11498208f9@natae.notmuch>

On Mon, Dec 21, 2020 at 3:51 PM Felipe Contreras
<felipe.contreras@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> David Aguilar wrote:
> > Just a heads-up that Felipe has a history on this list of creating
> > long, never-ending, pointless rant threads so sometimes the best
> > course of action is to ignore him.
>
> I think this can be considered a personal attack, which goes against the
> code of conduct.

Sorry Felipe -- there is no explanation that will satisfy you and this
is not the place to try and "make a case" for what was said. The
downsides of further engagement and messages that did not need to be
exchanged has already played itself out.

Please take this apology so that you can have the last word.  I am not
going to try and convince anyone that my response was appropriate.

> The code of conduct suggests behavior like:
>
>  * Being respectful of differing viewpoints and experiences
>  * Showing empathy towards other community members
>
> It seems to me the above comment is an example of the opposite.
>
> If you feel that my feedback is pointless, then don't engage with it.
> There's no need to put aggravating labels, especially on a public
> setting. Even if most people agree with you.
>
> I tolerate your opinion, but it's just that; an opinion.
>
> I think you should treat it as such (an opinion), and not blatantly
> disregard the viewpoints of people you disagree with, and worse;
> publicly suggest others do the same.

I could try and explain that being intolerant of my and others'
viewpoints and dismissing them as being inadequately defended or
non-existent is ironic, but arguing is a pointless endeavor.  I gave
you an honest, but inappropriate, response in public because being
honest and candid is a form of empathy, but that doesn't make it okay.

I appreciate your talents and tenacity. I can't ask you to be less
abrasive.  I can't ask you to not ignore the opinions of others.  All
I can offer you is my respect and an apology.

Sorry for saying that.

Much respect to you Felipe.  In respect for you, I will politely
refrain from responding to this thread.

Sometimes the best arguments are the ones that are not made.
-- 
David